Kids are curious little beings. Wow, the questions my kids come up with sometimes blow my mind! It can be overwhelming to think about all the complicated things in our world that my kids have yet to find out about. I want to be the one to talk about the hard things and to teach them what’s right and what’s wrong. I want them to always feel comfortable coming to me or Mike to answer their big, tough questions about life. I want to keep them innocent, but at the same time, I want to keep them informed so that they don’t search for answers in other people, their friends, or the Internet.
It’s important for our kids to feel comfortable coming to us with any questions they may have. Those questions might make us blush, but those questions give you a tiny window into your child’s mind and heart. If your kids are anything like mine, they will have questions about their bodies. They may have questions about an image that they saw on a tv, or a story they heard on the news. They may be interested in how their friend’s family is structured differently than yours.
The media landscape means you can’t shut the world out when you shut your front door. We can’t protect our children from everything, and it would be unwise to try. Curiosity is an amazing part of their humanity. Those questions are what keep our society moving forward and young minds are fertile ground for dreaming up different approaches to life.
Let’s celebrate curiosity and banish shame in asking questions. We need to start having those conversations at an early age, whenever their little minds need some answers. It’s better to show your kids that you are a safe place to come to when they are wondering or unsure. I want my children to understand and deeply believe that there are no “bad questions” in our home. The idea that topics are off limits breeds secrecy and shame.
As my kids get older, I’m faced with bigger and more lasting questions. It’s gone from light-hearted questions about how weird it is that all people have nipples to hard questions about why there is suffering near and far. But, our being honest with the easy questions makes our home a safe place to sort through the difficulties and mysteries of life. You’re being an amazing mom by keeping those little minds and hearts healthy. Keep being open, and keep loving on them through your honesty and your good example. You’re the best.